Bassist-In-A-Tutu
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Perhaps not so complicated?
My wifes mum offered to pay for us to go to Australia later in the year for whatever reason - I'm still not sure why the sudden generosity...? So I said we can't afford to go because we would still have to stump up for Hotel bills and food and stuff as she was only going to pay for flights.
My mum then said she would pay for the hotels for us. (OK I know we are spoiled...) But we are lucky!
Then my wife decided she would like to go to Aus on her own, leave me behind.... I reminded her that she would have no hotel money - can't expect my Mum to pay for her hotels! She said she would get that from her Dad! No problem. I am only half sure I understand why she made this suggestion, but she seems sure it is what she wants. It is very unlike her though?
So I thought, well, what can I get out of this situation? And the obvious thing was the Morrissey tour in the States. Talked it over with Mum and she said in a round about way, that she would be happy for me to spend her portion of the "Australia" money on the trip to Florida. All sorted then isn't it?
But is it?
1) I am almost 40, unemployed and short of cash.
2) Although my parents can afford to give me money I don't like taking it from them for fun trips when I might need to borrow to pay the mortgage in a few months if I still don't have a job.
3) I have always wanted to go to Australia, since I was a child.
My wife has not said I can't go with her, or that she would rather go on her own, but she seems dissapointed that I can't make a decission (Or have not yet made one) on what to do. I think she is realy excited about the idea of having her own little adventure without me. I think she would be dissapointed if I decided to go with her.
I am also excited about having my own little adventure in Florida, and getting to see probably 3 Morrissey concerts. But I feel silly trying to book it in between the job hunting! I know we will be OK with the money, but it just seems wrong!
I have to decide today what to do. I'm probably going to feel bad for a while whatever I decide. In my heart I feel I should...... (And that is the problem. I don't know what the feeling is, I just have a feeling, and it is not comfortable!)
I know you can't all decide for me, but your opinions are valued here!
Cheers
My wifes mum offered to pay for us to go to Australia later in the year for whatever reason - I'm still not sure why the sudden generosity...? So I said we can't afford to go because we would still have to stump up for Hotel bills and food and stuff as she was only going to pay for flights.
My mum then said she would pay for the hotels for us. (OK I know we are spoiled...) But we are lucky!
Then my wife decided she would like to go to Aus on her own, leave me behind.... I reminded her that she would have no hotel money - can't expect my Mum to pay for her hotels! She said she would get that from her Dad! No problem. I am only half sure I understand why she made this suggestion, but she seems sure it is what she wants. It is very unlike her though?
So I thought, well, what can I get out of this situation? And the obvious thing was the Morrissey tour in the States. Talked it over with Mum and she said in a round about way, that she would be happy for me to spend her portion of the "Australia" money on the trip to Florida. All sorted then isn't it?
But is it?
1) I am almost 40, unemployed and short of cash.
2) Although my parents can afford to give me money I don't like taking it from them for fun trips when I might need to borrow to pay the mortgage in a few months if I still don't have a job.
3) I have always wanted to go to Australia, since I was a child.
My wife has not said I can't go with her, or that she would rather go on her own, but she seems dissapointed that I can't make a decission (Or have not yet made one) on what to do. I think she is realy excited about the idea of having her own little adventure without me. I think she would be dissapointed if I decided to go with her.
I am also excited about having my own little adventure in Florida, and getting to see probably 3 Morrissey concerts. But I feel silly trying to book it in between the job hunting! I know we will be OK with the money, but it just seems wrong!
I have to decide today what to do. I'm probably going to feel bad for a while whatever I decide. In my heart I feel I should...... (And that is the problem. I don't know what the feeling is, I just have a feeling, and it is not comfortable!)
I know you can't all decide for me, but your opinions are valued here!
Cheers