I have to ask this....my brother has been teasing me mercilessly & will continue to do so up until Sat. 10/18. That's my 35th b-day.

I've been DONE w/ the Internet dating scene since September 2005. Other options, I've done & kept open yet, to no avail, things remain the same.

My brother even though he's married & younger than myself states that, something is majorly WRONG w/me in regards to this factor & he states ageism is a major player too. Yet, he always blows this stink up in a funny fashion, by teasing me quite often. Yes, I will admit, it really hurts at times.

What I'm basically asking is, the number here in my area is that, by my age, if you're not married or involved in a serious relationship that, something IS quite wrong w/ you. Yes, I'm VERY straight too & have my heart open yet, nothing is obviously happening.

Is ageism just a number?
Is it going to be a curse about this now since it hasn't happened?
What else can I do even though, I've surrendered it all off? This is what I've been doing since I surrendered all of my profiles in September 2005.

Are there other people here that are either 35 or older that aren't married? How do you put the pressure & stress aside when people are "ignorant" about it?

I used to think, in my early 20s, that there must be something wrong with a guy if he wasn't married by the time he was 30.
I was naive. Bad times.

I'm over 30 but feel like a 16 year old. Good times.

I'm looking forward to incontinence :)

I like getting older:) I call my grey hairs, my george clooney look. :D

And you are sexy as hell. :p :horny:

I'm looking forward to incontinence :)

Sorry, that is not sexy. :sick:


@Mozzy1: I'm 30 and never felt better.

I don't think age really matters that much but for a young person i suppose that is easy to say.

So, is it a typical bad trait in the UK that, if you're not married by 35 you're going to be a spinster/left alone on the shelf?

Why is it this way in America then? It makes people feel so crappy when they're alone, trust me...

I like getting older:) I call my grey hairs, my george clooney look. :D

I also like counting my grey.... hmmpf forget it.

So, is it a typical bad trait in the UK that, if you're not married by 35 you're going to be a spinster/left alone on the shelf?

Why is it this way in America then? It makes people feel so crappy when they're alone, trust me...

Every year that passes is a year closer to death. If that is not Morrissey enough for everyone I don't know what is.

I am 32 and i am not worried about being married by 35.i could care less.ifi meet someone and i eventually marry them,so be it.
if not,i will manage.not really a burden for me.
i like getting older,though i do not look my age at all.which may help.

I'm 18, marriage, grey hair/baldness, middle age spread; not really on my radar atm, sorry to depress people there :D :p

Based on Mozzy1's profile, she is a woman.. I think a lot of people are assuming she is a man and therefore are embracing their age.

Agism is very real when it comes to women. Men generally like women younger than them.. so if you are 35.. you might find it hard to find men that are 35 but if you look for men you who are 40-50 you might have different levels of success.

The other thing that is very different is that men put much more importance on looks. This really means that your actual age is not as important as your perceived age.

So, what are some birthday ideas then:

1) you don't want to see your family b/c they will "tease" you & make you feel worse but, you don't want to hurt their feelings b/c they want to see you?

2) you have no friends that are single so, you do NOT want to be a third-wheel?

3) you don't want to do things that are not your personality, like going to clubs & bars...whereas, go to a nice restaurant, etc?

4) you sure as he** don't want to be alone, in a depressive funk knowing your age & that you ARE alone...

What ideas does anyone have? Suggestions appreciated.

So, what are some birthday ideas then:

present & cake:)



1) you don't want to see your family b/c they will "tease" you & make you feel worse but, you don't want to hurt their feelings b/c they want to see you?
I tease them more then tease me.....tease you about what? your age...I tell them i am happy getting older & as I am the baby, your a lot older then me:)

If that doesn't stop them, tell em to shut UP!

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2) you have no friends that are single so, you do NOT want to be a third-wheel?

I have plenty of single friends, hasn't every one?



3) you don't want to do things that are not your personality, like going to clubs & bars...whereas, go to a nice restaurant, etc?
then go to a restaurant:confused: easy!!!!!



4) you sure as he** don't want to be alone, in a depressive funk knowing your age & that you ARE alone...

What ideas does anyone have? Suggestions appreciated.

I am not depressed about my age or alone!

I have an idea about suggestions that have been posted to you about a hundred times before except one that is, stop asking for 'answers' on morrissey solo, the answers are not here...***points to the outside world**** the answers you seek are out there.

Nowadays people are getting married and having a family later and later.

I think women if they haven't got children by their mid thirties do start to panic.I had my first child at 26 which was way later than all my friends.i think that had I had left it till now (39) i wouldn't of had any.

It is unfair that our fertility declines in our mid thirties whereas men can have children at any age.

So, what are some birthday ideas then:

1) you don't want to see your family b/c they will "tease" you & make you feel worse but, you don't want to hurt their feelings b/c they want to see you?

If your family makes you feel like shit then tell them so. If your family messes with you, tell them to get fucked. No, I am not joking. Just because you are related to them does not mean you have any obligation towards them, nor any reason not to be truthful if they are a bunch of assholes.

2) you have no friends that are single so, you do NOT want to be a third-wheel?

Um, why would your friends bring the people they are boning along with them? Are the people they are having sex with YOUR friends? Probably not. Go out with your friends, not your friends + the people they are having sex with.

3) you don't want to do things that are not your personality, like going to clubs & bars...whereas, go to a nice restaurant, etc?

Then do something you want. It's not rocket science.

4) you sure as he** don't want to be alone, in a depressive funk knowing your age & that you ARE alone...

What is wrong with being alone? People are so weak and needy, I swear it's so pathetic. Waaah, waaah, I am "alone", which is incorrect, as you have friends (you even admitted so), family, people around you at work, presumably people around you in your neighbourhood etc.

We all know that this tirade of self pity is based on the fact you are so desperate for a 'relationship', that you create this giant depression and self delusion of darkness and despair just because you can't live your fantasy.

Guess what, you probably never will. You want to know why? There is nothing more unattractive to a man (never mind looks) then a weak, desperate, self pitying, whining, complaining girl who thinks 35 and being alone is the end of the world. You might as well be a 35 year old steel worker from Jersey named "Big Barry", because with that attitude you would be about equally attractive to men as "Barry". Actually, "Barry" wouldn't be self pitying and such a pathetic display of woe and weakness, so he would probably stand a better chance.

What ideas does anyone have? Suggestions appreciated.

See a mental health professional. I am not being mean, I am quite serious. If this isn't some game you are playing online, making things up just for the hell of it on a Morrissey forum, then you have some serious issues and a mental health professional could help you with those.

@Arsenal: I told her basically the exact same things a few weeks ago on a very similar thread plus in PMs too. (I might have been a bit more gentle with the wording but the message was basically the same.)

See one of my old threads on 'single women'...Kewpie may provide the link :D

Actually, I just found them...

http://forums.morrissey-solo.com/showthread.php?t=89919

or perhaps

http://forums.morrissey-solo.com/showthread.php?t=90595

But really, there is no point dwelling on it, it'll make you ill. Get on with your life. I learnt to and if I can....:D

It's just a number. Consider the alternative.

btw, anyone younger than me cannot bitch about getting older! How many people does that leave then...3? :p:D

It's just a number. Consider the alternative.

btw, anyone younger than me cannot bitch about getting older! How many people does that leave then...3? :p:D

God, getting older is a bitch! :p

So, what are some birthday ideas then:

1) you don't want to see your family b/c they will "tease" you & make you feel worse but, you don't want to hurt their feelings b/c they want to see you?

2) you have no friends that are single so, you do NOT want to be a third-wheel?

3) you don't want to do things that are not your personality, like going to clubs & bars...whereas, go to a nice restaurant, etc?

4) you sure as he** don't want to be alone, in a depressive funk knowing your age & that you ARE alone...

What ideas does anyone have? Suggestions appreciated.

Call a friend and suggest you two go out for "girl" time or "1 on 1" time.
That takes out the third wheel and gives you the option to go to a nice restaurant.

God, getting older is a bitch! :p

:eek: what did you just call me?! :confused: :mad:

oh... sorry. :o hearing is the first to go ;) lol :D

:eek: what did you just call me?! :mad:

oh... sorry. :o hearing is the first to go lol :D

Don't worry hearing aids are really hi-tech these days ;) :p What goes next then?...the bowels :sick: :p

I don't think you should get to moan about age until you hit 60!

Just be glad you're alive. Or appreciate this phenomenon with ever quickening fleeting moments...:)

Don't worry hearing aids are really hi-tech these days ;) :p What goes next then?...the bowels :sick: :p

I'm not sure. The mind seems to go first actually. I sure do miss mine. ;)

I'm not sure. The mind seems to go first actually. I sure do miss mine. ;)

I'll look forward to that then :) I often loose my marbles, it'll pay to look for yours, if your sight's up to it though :p

(permission to hit me across the face :o :p)

I'll look forward to that then :) I often loose my marbles, it'll pay to look for yours, if your sight's up to it though :p

(permission to hit me across the face :o :p)

My eyes and ears (and bowels :p) are fine... it's the ball & Jacks I'm missing ;)

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It's just a number. Consider the alternative.

btw, anyone younger than me cannot bitch about getting older! How many people does that leave then...3? :p:D

It's just a number.

But then again, I'm one of the three. :eek:

I'm 35 not married and could totally care less. Don't get much crap from people so doesn't matter at all.

All I know is that I wish I could still live on 4 hours of sleep per night.

(I could use the extra hours for doing some more insignificant things)

I'm looking forward to incontinence :)

I don't have to look forward to it, 8 cans of special brew and I'm there.